So the internets are all a’buzzing about the picture from Time Magazine for a variety of reasons.
OMG she’s breastfeeding a school age child! Disgusting! Outrageous! Scandal! Pervert!
She’s going to scar that boy for life on the cover of a major news magazine like that! Child abuse!
This is basically pornography showing a uncovered BREAST like that! ::clutching pearls::
Me, I don’t give a flying fig about the picture. You breastfeed your infant, cool. You breastfeed your toddler, cool. You breastfeed your school-age child, cool. Your decision. I don’t care. I don’t care if you advertise it by way of sitting next to me on a park bench or on a national magazine.
I’m not going to be the only blogger to write about this, but… what I don’t like? The title...
“Are YOU Mom Enough?”
Whether we decide to breastfeed or formula feed. Work from home or stay at home. Cloth diaper or use disposables. Shop at Whole Foods and eat organic or from the bargain bulk bins at Winco. Home-school or send them off to the bus stop. Whether you read Dr. Sears, Dr. Green or Dr. Ferber. Co-sleep or cry it out. Whether you birthed that baby in a hospital with a sheet between you and a doctor who was slicing you open like a watermelon or whether you had them at home, au natural, in a plastic tub.
And when you feel the doubt creeping in. When the moms in your play group, your friends on Facebook, advertising, TV shows, news articles, Pinterest, BLOGGERS, all make you feel like you’re not enough?
What? You don’t’ craft and make elaborate dinners? Throw incredible themed first birthday parties? You don’t have your own organic garden? You aren’t making homemade baby food? You didn’t encapsulate your placenta? You don’t have a savings account for your child? A college fund? You’re not going on an incredible family vacation every year? You don’t save 80% of your grocery bills with an incredible coupon cutting strategy? Your home doesn’t look like the pages of Pinterest or Pottery Barn?
THAT IS OK.
Know one thing. The litmus test for the million dollar question, “Are YOU mom enough?”
Do you LOVE your child? Completely, unconditionally and in a way that is so all-encompassing that every decision you make for your child(ren), your family, is based on that love.
If the answer is, yes, then yes, you ARE mom enough.
“Motherhood is a choice you make everyday, to put someone else's happiness and well-being ahead of your own, to teach the hard lessons, to do the right thing even when you're not sure what the right thing is...and to forgive yourself, over and over again, for doing everything wrong.”
-Donna Ball, At Home on Ladybug Farm