Here we go.
#1. This was not in regards to the T-TTCers at all. Not for women with PCOS or long cycles or anything like that. I was not talking about it in IF journey terms whatsoever. This was more towards the complete hysteria of some when they aren't knocked up right away when they first initially start trying to get pregnant. I'm not telling anyone how to feel, not at all, just suggesting step back and a look at the big picture. If you want to break down into hysterics, be my guest, although I have to say it probably isn't the healthiest TTC move.
#2. Am I judgemental. I can safely say, yes...yes I am. Isn't everyone? It is pretty much human nature. Can anyone safely say that they have absolutely no judgement about anything or anyone? If so, congratulations you are truly a better person than I am! Either that or you're lying. Example, do you look at the train wreck that is Britney Spears and not judge? If you can say "yes" in all truthfulness then honestly, you really are a better person than me. Me, I look at her and think, "Dude, she is a terrible mother and needs a come to Jesus talk from someone ASAP before she hurts herself or, heaven forbid, one of those children!"
#3. I made a comment on a message board once, around Cycle #7, feeling terribly sorry for myself. Someone replied to me, "Girl, I'm on Cycle #30.... you really don't have it that bad. Calm down." At the time I was terribly offended and thought that she was trying to make me feel bad, but deep down I think I was more embarrassed because I saw how petty it sounded in comparison. 7 cycles, hard, yes. The end of the world as I knew it, no.
#4. Yes, I'm only on my 3rd cycle of Clomid, true. We've been trying for #21 Cycles. I've been off of BC for almost 4 years, and we were not preventing. If we could have been more proactive I like to think we'd be on to IUIs on IVF by now but unfortunately as a self-employed person who has no IF coverage for diagnosis or treatment whatsoever, I did not have that luxury. Now that I have a new job that has fantastic medical, I'm hoping we can make things move a little quicker.
#5. I'm not trying to make anyone's pain less. I'm simply expressing a point of view. I'm all for people venting and being upset at AF/BFN but at an early stage in the game I, personally, think that it may be a little ridiculous for you to be:
A. Lying to your doctor about how long you've been trying in order to get tests done sooner because you just cannot possibly wait until the 6 month/year mark even though you hand perfectly regular cycles and are ovulating.
B. Threatening to overdose on OTC drugs because you're still not pregnant after 5 cycles and you are a failure as a wife.
Those are actually things I have seen in the past couple weeks. Yes, really.
Anyways, although I'm not apologizing for what I wrote, I just wanted to offer some further explanations because it became quite heated in the comments section.
Ps. I do moderate my comments section but ALWAYS post actual responses, if this is hotbod1029 or nudeygirlongirl.com I don't post yours because frankly, I'm not interested in setting up a chat with you via live webcam nor am I interested in enlarging my partner's manhood.
Monday, December 3, 2007
An Addendum to my 2 cents...
Here we go.